What is resilience, are we all talking about the same thing?
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, tragedy, trauma, threats and even significant sources of stress - such as family and relationship problems, health issues, and workplace or financial stresses.
Having good strategies for coping with stress makes us resilient.
The authors of Resilience- The science of mastering life's greatest challenges (Steven M.Southwick & Dennis S Charney) through their work on investigating resilience found number of recurring traits in resilient people.
10 resilience factors
1. Able to confront their fears
2. Maintained an optimistic but realistic outlook
3. Imitated sturdy role models
4. Sought and accepted social support
5. Relied upon their own inner moral compass
6. Turned to religious or spiritual practices
7. Found a way to accept what they could not change
8. Attended to their health and well-being and trained intensively to maintain physical fitness, mentally sharp and emotionally strong
9. Active problem-solvers who look for meaning and opportunity in the midst of adversity
10. Accept responsibility for their own emotional well-being and may use their experiences as a platform for personal growth
How many of these do you have?
Practice on adding one or more factors that appeal to you and observe over time if you feel you are more resilient. Help your kids to do the same and discuss how these factors help us to stand strong in a constantly changing and challenging world.
Remember resilience is a habit that needs to be practiced consistently and no one is resilient in all aspects of their lives at the same time.
Just do what you can. Having regular conversations with our family and friends is a great start.
I would love to know what you think and what happened when you applied these factors in your own life, feel free to comment or get in touch.